Collaborative Practice
for Divorce
for Divorce
Online Custody, Visitation
Mediation and Teletherapy
This site is about Collaborative Practice
as an internal and external process,
for the spouses and for the family of divorce.
Conflict Resolution is a process, not a destination.
It involves both the external discussions and negotiations between spouses, as well as the internal shifts within each person as they absorb, adapt, adjust to the powerful emotions and changing circumstances of couple and family life.
This is a blog about moving through the process, from both the personal and the professional perspective.
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Collaborative Practice | Mediation
Collaborative Law-Employment Dispute-Facilitator’s Role Identifying Options (video)
The Neutral Facilitator helps the clients and Team identify options that best address BOTH clients' interests and concerns.
Civil Collaborative Law in Action: Employment Dispute (video)
The Neutral Collaborative Facilitator leads this meeting of the full team, clients and professionals, as we begin to explore what the clients' actual concerns are in this dispute.
Following Rupture With Repair
Moving from one mindset to an alternate mindset isn't easy, even with Zen guidance or years of psychotherapy in your repertoire. It involves shifting awareness amidst the murky waters of emotion, and often doesn't happen as fluidly as we imagine it will. I spend a lot of time talking with
Closing Ceremonies
As a species, humans seem to be drawn to ritual and to the structure of ceremonies that mark significant occasions/rites of passage in a life. Marriages involve ceremonies, some simple, some elaborate, some spiritual, some strictly to fulfill civil law. Divorce, on the other hand, rarely involves ritual or ceremony.
Helping Kids Move Through the Holidays
Even the most well-meaning divorced parents can find themselves looking for love during the holidays, love from their children, that is.... The holiday season implies, for all of us, warm, inviting gatherings of family from regions far and wide, everyone reuniting around lavish feasts and storytelling. For children from divorced
When Divorce Ends in Familicide
Divorce, as we do it in our society, goes to the heart of all losses, like death. Rarely, however, do we expect it to result in death. I have discussed the ways in which people move through the divorce process, move through change, the alteration and restructuring of family relationships,
Emotion 2 Motion
The Movement of Divorce
A woman friend of mine is separating from her husband of many years, struggling with how to talk with the children and dealing with their reactions. Soulful and insightful, intuitive and deeply spiritual, my friend is trying to fashion a transition that is barely perceptible to the children. She and
What Is Hidden Is Revealed
Today, a discussion about "transparency" in collaborative practice led to defining the term along a continuum of privacy vs. secrecy. How does one person's need for privacy during separation and disengagement mesh with the other person's concerns about secrecy, not knowing, withholding, feeling left in the dark? In everyday life,
Movement is in the Eye of the Beholder
Movement occurs in space, and in time. It appears in small increments, in the small muscles of body and mind. Observing two dancers, marked by histories of abuse and psychological pain......they partner on the dance floor. Usually, each is awkward, disconnected from self and other, barely present. In partnership, there
Growth as internal movement
I am considerably amazed at the amount of growth a person can achieve in a brief period of time. As parents, we watch our children accomplish this developmental task all the time. This movement, of self in pursuit of higher-order thinking, feeling, living, is one of those humbling parts of
Ribs and Breathing
In the many months since the last entry, my leg has recovered mobility, but there is clearly something affecting my lower back, still sending shots of nerve pain down the back side of the leg........sciatica?? That makes me feel OLD, some mornings like an ancient crone crawling out of bed,
Walking Wounded: Movement Restricted
It's been three months since my last entry. Five weeks of that time have been marked by my first "sports injury", to my right leg, and the preoccupation with pain, limited mobility and recovery. I am a living example of "bound flow", in effort-shape terms, cautious about each step, restricting