Moving from one mindset to an alternate mindset isn't easy, even with Zen guidance or years of psychotherapy in your repertoire. It involves shifting awareness amidst the murky waters of emotion, and often doesn't happen
As a species, humans seem to be drawn to ritual and to the structure of ceremonies that mark significant occasions/rites of passage in a life. Marriages involve ceremonies, some simple, some elaborate, some spiritual, some
Even the most well-meaning divorced parents can find themselves looking for love during the holidays, love from their children, that is.... The holiday season implies, for all of us, warm, inviting gatherings of family from
Divorce, as we do it in our society, goes to the heart of all losses, like death. Rarely, however, do we expect it to result in death. I have discussed the ways in which people
One of the most difficult aspects of family transition comes when parents and children have to face separation at holiday times. The alternating year schedule that most divorce families know is a legally convenient solution
Moving through divorce, when you’re a parent, involves moving through the swamp of emotions about the demise of the marriage and the potential damaging effects on our children. It is an triumph of will and
Very young children exposed to traumatic experiences hold those memories in their bodies. Thus, a client’s 2 1/2 year-old daughter, now separated from her father through an embattled custody trial and reams of evidence of
Clients often ask me when. When will we be separated? When can I move out? When can I get my husband/wife to leave? When will it be done? Those of us who are professionals helping
Long before we can speak, we are observers, receivers of the movements and intentions of others. Though unable to express ourselves in words, we still codify our experiences and have the capacity to recollect them
A woman friend of mine is separating from her husband of many years, struggling with how to talk with the children and dealing with their reactions. Soulful and insightful, intuitive and deeply spiritual, my friend